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So far in my previous four blog posts on The 12 Gifts of Intimacy during Christmas, I've laid out 12 ideas for you and your spouse to grow in Emotional, Experiential, Spiritual, and Physical intimacy together. For this last post in this series, I'm providing 12 ideas for growing together mentally. These kinds of activities help you engage thoughts and feelings from your spouse. The deeply engaging the conversation is, the better! When couples simply talk about their da

So far, I’ve given you 12 ideas to cultivate Emotional , Experiential , and Spiritual intimacy in your relationship. If you missed those reads, go back and look at my previous blog posts. For this one, I’m going to give you 12 gift ideas to give yourselves as Christmas gifts that can help you keep that romantic and physical intimacy growing… so read this with your spouse and discuss together how you are growing together in your sexual intimacy . Then see if any of these p

I recently took a trip and visited a church that handed out amazing Advent devotional books. I used to focus on the season of Advent more when my kids were young. We'd do the Joshua Tree project or some other family devotional that taught them the Christmas story of Jesus coming into the world. But I admit, as life has changed, I have let go of some of those family traditions. I thought about how important it is to continue this with my husband, and not just for the sake o

So, how’s Christmas shopping coming along? I hope you’ve got your tree up and have bought at least half of your Christmas list of presents so far! As a continuation of my 5 part series, this post constrains 12 gifts of experiential intimacy ideas to do with your spouse. In the first post I shared 12 ideas to cultivate emotional intimacy. In this section, these little mini dates are designed to cultivate fun , creativity , and adventure within your relationship. Having act

Tis the season for buying lots of presents and overspending on the monthly budget... Christmas shopping is fun, but also stressful! This time of year brings lots of opportunities for intimate moments ... maybe a cozy movie with your spouse near the sparkling lights of the Christmas tree and the beautiful glow of a fire, while sipping hot coco, or wine, or hey maybe a bourbon. But it can also be a doozy of a month full of conflict and tension from the added stress of the "to

If I were to create a poll and offer it to the general public asking, “What is the number one thing needed for successful intimacy in a relationship?”, - What do you think the answer would be? I think the top answer would be “ communication”. And I’d say that’s a really great answer because communication is a huge factor in cultivating a vibrant and healthy relationship. It’s not easy for some people to talk about things that create deep intimacy . It makes them feel vulner

I watched a documentary this week, reminding me of my favorite hero of faith, Corrie Ten Boom . Well, Corrie wasn’t even married so why do I write about her in my marriage intimacy blog? Because this woman was full of God’s wisdom . She went through unspeakable things and because of that, she has a perspective about life that we all need to hold onto. After her release from consentration camp, Corrie traveled across the world speaking on the love of Jesus, salvation , and f

My mirror can somedays be my best friend… those days where my hair is on point, my body seems radiant and I had a good workout. My makeup glistens like sunbeams and I strut out that door with confidence. Other days, that mirror betrays me and becomes my worst enemy. I look like a bloated marshmallow, my wrinkles seem to be glaring at me from under a magnifying glass, and my hair is a frazzled dazzled mess. Then, walking out that bathroom door, I just feel crummy. I kinda wish

There is absolutely no part of my finite brain that can understand the complexity of physics when I start thinking about exactly how a three stranded cord is exponentially stronger than only two strands. Nor, how braiding these three cords would affect the overall strength of them together. And thanks to the help from AI Overview, I learned that a braided cord of three strands is not simply three times as strong as a single strand; it is potentially up to 50% stronger than a

The name for my coaching business came from the verse in the Bible from John 15:4, "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me." Our goal is to bear much fruit in our marriages and in the world, but we can't do that unless we are truly abiding in Christ. My mission is to help couples abide in Him first so that they can work together to bear much fruit, in their relationship with o