The 12 Gifts of Intimacy Part 4: Physical

So far, I’ve given you 12 ideas to cultivate Emotional, Experiential, and Spiritual intimacy in your relationship. If you missed those reads, go back and look at my previous blog posts.

For this one, I’m going to give you 12 gift ideas to give yourselves as Christmas gifts that can help you keep that romantic and physical intimacy growing… so read this with your spouse and discuss together how you are growing together in your sexual intimacy. Then see if any of these practical gifts can help you along the way. Please feel free to email me or text any questions or advice on how to use any of these products, I’m not going to lay it all out there in this forum.

Also, a disclaimer. Not everyone will align or agree with all of these items on your personal values and beliefs. That's ok. It is important to me to not go against God's word in my practice, and with that said, I believe that apart from sex within marriage between one woman and one man, God will provide specific convictions about what is right for each couple and I ask you not judge based on your own personal convictions. IF something is not right for you, just simply scroll on past. Also, in my recommendations I try very hard to provide resources for things that do not have lusty photos on products or links I send you to purchase those items. I do not keep up with websites if they change, so please be cautioned and careful. I recommend searching for these items as a couple so there is transparency and can discuss any issues along the way if needed. And lastly, I am not responsible for any mishaps of misuse of any of these products, use at your own risk with consent, with discernment, and safety.

Ok, on with the fun 12 gifts of Physical Intimacy...

1. Bamboo Bay Sheets

   

My husband and I have these sheets and they are absolutely fabulous. They feel incredibly soft, luxurious, and perfect for melting into one another in bed. Find them at: Bamboo Bay Sheets | Bamboo Bay | Bamboo Sheets | 100% Viscose from BambooBed Sheets

2. Luminera Flameless Candles

   

   Flameless candles are a must-have for a romantic setting. They aren't a fire-hazard since there's no open flame. They have remotes for easy turning on/off. It adds the romantic ambiance for the perfect setting in love-making. Find them at:

   Luminara® | The Leader in Flameless Candle Technology

3. Rose Petals

   

   These are perfect to add steamy romance to your evening together (or morning :) and can be used over and over again. They're not the most fun to clean up afterward, but I always love the extra touch it gives to creating intentional romantic connection. Find them at: Shop - Ling's Moment

4. Libido Boosting Massage Oil

   

   This massage oil has amazing libido enhancers including: shwagandha, Maca, Shatavari support libido and help enhance pleasure. I love the ylang-ylang scent that is part of the essential oils perfume used as it also is known for libido boosting properties. Find it here:

   Playground Mood Maker Non Toxic Intimacy Oil for Women - 1 fl oz : Target

5. Melting Wax Candles

   

   For those of you who like it hot.... This rose shaped candle is low-temp, meaning that it is safe to pour onto skin during intimate and romantic play. I would personally test it first to make sure you are not too sensitive to the feeling or heat of the candle. It adds a wonderful experience if you are interested in sensory experiences.

   Amazon.com: Low Temperature Candles Flower Shaped Scented Wine Red Red Pink White Peony Adult Low Heat Body Safe Wax Play : Home & Kitchen

6. Massage Wand

   

   This is a very versatile tool. You can use it very tamely as simply a massage tool to make your spouse feel great, or you can use it however else your imagination would enoy it together. It is rechargeable and cordless, and has various settings. Find it here:

   Amazon.com: Metooka Therapeutic Cordless Massager - Powerful Massage Tool Handheld 8 Speeds 20 Patterns - Rechargeable Hand Massagers for Sore Muscles - Hand Held Massage Tool for Neck & Back : Health & Household

7. Matching Christmas Undies

   

   Isn't this just adorable?! I think having matching underwear builds connection, a way to be "joined" with our spouse. But also, it's just fun and cute to be playfully alike. If you're the type to enjoy romantic photo sessions, then using these as sexy memorable playful Christmas fun is an awesome idea! You can find them here:

   https://www.amazon.com/USA-SALES-Matching-Underwear-Christmas-Valentines/dp/B0828P5GHL/ref=sr_1_18?crid=2ASEAYK01TSV&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.hR3YZj0rL3NVytX3TNlgh-2LPJaOj4qpdc1hKBzFGMGeRzmHZO84CZ0loQlz0Ulicz9wMdmk_8AE7RtFmDG3KGWNinTlB-XUmajjHr-NHk9JNlLGVOK_zEVbNJro7u330yRhUYHP-6OFIiwAnvPnwZ5nCObiyChpIBtnP5C5_nPM4g2IpP-EGZ-66RyBdL205ljF-Mvvbuxg_i5Va4NltQ2F

8. Waterproof Blanket

   

   This is also a must-have product for intimacy. If you don't want to get sweat, lube, oil, and whatever else fun mess you make with your spouse in the bed, or on any other furniture for that matter, you need to get this product. It is easy to wash, it is completely waterproof, and keep the mess from getting on other things you don't want to ruin or stain. Find it here:

   Amazon.com: Blue Zoca Beach Blanket Waterproof Sandproof Waterproof Blanket for Camping, Hiking, Outdoor Sporting Events, Picnics & More | Machine Washable & Pet Friendly | Travel Size - 65x50in Black : Pet Supplies

9. Champagne Flutes

   

   I love the design of these champagne flutes. They are romantic, classy, and can be used between the two of you for that romantic night or later on for Christmas gatherings. Find the set here:

   Golden Fir Champagne Flute – To The Nines Manitowish Waters

10. Female Orgasm Couples Toy

    
    

    

    This is a couples toy, that is a great tool for female pleasure during intercourse. Many women (and couples) can get frustrated with the struggle to orgasm during penetration. It is common that women need clitoral stimulation with penetration of her husband. This toy can work with helping enjoy that by adding that stimulation during penetrative sex. You can find it here:

    Amazon.com: Couples Sex Toys for Men Women Vibrators - Adult Toys Remote Control Vibrator, Wearable Penis Vibrator with 9 Vibrating Modes, G Spot Vibrators Stimulator for Men Women Pleasure Sex Toys for Couples : Health & Household

11. Lubrication

    

    Lubrication is a must have for intimacy. A few tips: Use silicone based for skin to skin, it lasts longer. Use water for any toy-based use as it protects the toy from breaking down materials. Lube makes things more pleasurable all around for both partners, keep it handy at all times. You can find the brand I recommend most here:

    Amazon.com: Happy Lube Silicone Based Lubricant for Personal Pleasure in Men and Women or Couples Use, Adult Toys and Condom Safe, Long Lasting, Slippery Glide, Hypoallergenic for Sensitive Skin, 7 oz, 1 Pack : Health & Household

12. Sensory Rope

    

    

    This is rope that can be used for lots of purposes. Some couples may want to use it simply for sensory fun on the skin. Others may want to use it for bondage fun. It is really important that you do not use rope to tie partners up without rope specific safety scissors, consent, a safe word, and knowledge on how to tie properly. It can also be used to create a fun pattern / dress on your spouse. (Again, safety and discretion on usage comes first!) You can find it here:

    Crimson Hemp Bondage Rope - Ethically Sourced | The Twisted Monk

Phew, is it getting hot in here?! Take your spouse and discuss the things you might be interested on the list. Again, if you need direction or would like help in an area of your intimacy, contact me - I am happy to help with a supportive space, no judgement, and no shame.

Remember that in everything we do with our spouses, we aim to glorify God with our bodies, with our physical connection, and God designed sex for His glory and your pleasure when it is in the context of a covenant marriage.