The Number One Thing Needed

If I were to create a poll and offer it to the general public asking, “What is the number one thing needed for successful intimacy in a relationship?”, - What do you think the answer would be?

I think the top answer would be “communication”. And I’d say that’s a really great answer because communication is a huge factor in cultivating a vibrant and healthy relationship.

It’s not easy for some people to talk about things that create deep intimacy. It makes them feel vulnerable. It’s especially not easy for couples to communicate about sexual topics with one another, and especially in an authentic way.

Though communication is vital… I really believe that there’s one quality that stands above “communication” even in importance - And it’s having WISDOM.

Proverbs 3:13-18 reads, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace…”

Specifically , the wisdom God’s word offers us gives us the tools we need to be able to have great discernment about our interactions with our spouse as well as the world around us.

Consider this, for example… If you have something to share with your spouse about your desires, or you found a great article to share with them on the topic of romantic date nights, but you haven’t considered the kind of day your spouse has had, or the approach in your tone or haven’t affirmed their actions recently, you might set yourself up for a backfire.

If you spend time in prayer, meditating on God’s word regularly, you start to build a wise way of thinking about the relationship, your perspective on the interactions with your spouse, and how to approach the situation with great care.

You can possess all the worldly knowledge on how to be a great lover, but if you lack godly wisdom, your level of intimacy is bound to tank.

Do you have a lot of experience or knowledge about “sex and intimacy” but lack true wisdom?

In James chapter 1:5, it reads, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

If you’d like more guidance on how to be a wise spouse, reach out to me as I’d love to discuss this more with you!

Love - Kristi