KRISTI CLAUDEL
YOUR EXPERT GUIDE IN:
"Mixing Sexology with Biblical Theology"
ABIDE IN CHRIST
TYPOGRAPHY
Are you hurting?
Is your heart heavy or afraid?
Whether you're single or married, if you're experiencing loneliness, feeling unworthy of intimacy, suffering from compulsive sexual behavior, fearing the future in your relationship, confused about sex, struggling with shame, or a lack of interest in sex or emotional intimacy, God wants you to experience healing, and I'm here to help.
About
As a trusted, certified, and successful intimacy coach, I combine evidence-based methodologies with deep empathy, creativity, strategic problem solving, and unwavering integrity. My mission is to empower individuals and couples toward a healthy, complete relationship with Christ, with themselves, and with their spouses. I am most passionate about helping engaged and newly married couples prepare for a lifelong, deeply fulfilling and protective intimacy in marriage. In addition, I am called to stand in the gap with couples who are overcoming intimacy issues. I am trained and love to help couples with many other areas that affect intimacy together as well, from low libido to sexual dysfunction issues.. I believe that the most important aspect in relationships is abiding in a strong relationship with Christ. Through personal coaching, dynamic tools, and engaging workshops, I offer a diverse range of support. Together, my invested clients and I co-create meaningful change - turning intention into action - so they can confidently embrace their goals, desires, and have the abundant, life-giving relationship they deserve. Browse my services and book a free 20min consultation session today!
"Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not easily broken." Ecclesiastes 4:11-12
WHY SHOULD I HIRE AN INTIMACY COACH
AND HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FROM THERAPY?
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Therapists are vital professionals who help you uncover the root causes of challenges, process trauma, and heal from past wounds. Their focus is often on understanding what has happened so you can find healing and stability.
An intimacy and relationship coach, on the other hand, focuses on where you are now and where you want to be. Coaching is future-focused and goal-oriented. Instead of diagnosing or prescribing psychology, a coach helps you:
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Set clear goals for your relationship and intimacy
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Identify and overcome obstacles that hold you back
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Build practical skills for communication, trust, and emotional closeness
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Reclaim physical intimacy and move beyond fear, shame, or disconnection
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Create a vision for a marriage that is stronger, safer, and more fulfilling than ever before
In short: therapy helps you heal your past; coaching helps you create your future.
CAN YOU RELATE?
Common Sexual Intimacy
Stumbling Blocks
Fear of Comparison: People often struggle in comparing their bodies and performance, as well as the relationship to others.
Fear of Safety/Trust: The physical closeness of sex may trigger feelings of “I don’t know if I can trust you".
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Performance Anxiety: Both partners may worry about whether the experience will feel natural, enjoyable, or awkward.
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Emotional Detachment: One partner may feel that sex feels mechanical, forced, or disconnected rather than intimate.
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Fear of Rejection: One or both partners may worry their spouse doesn’t truly desire them, or fear that their advances will be rejected.
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Triggers During Intimacy: Certain positions, words, or behaviors may cause triggers for one spouse due to truama.
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Pressure to “Fix” the Relationship: Both may feel pressure that sex has to “prove” they’re healing emotionally, making it harder to relax.
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Resentment and Anger: Lingering anger can surface during attempts at intimacy, creating an undercurrent of conflict instead of connection.
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Prioritizing: Some couples simply have drifted from physical and emotional intimacy due to unresolved conflicts, unmet needs, and making other things a priority over intimacy.
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Uneven Desire: One partner may want sex more frequently, or struggle to desire sex at all.
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Sexual Dysfunction: Couples can experience issues of shame or fear that they are not enough, dealing with painful sex or erectile issues.
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The Newlywed Couple - Top 10 Fears and Needs to Consider
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Shame About Desire: Even in marriage, they may feel lingering shame about wanting or enjoying sex because desire was long framed as something to be resisted. Or they may feel shame about past sexual experiences.
Difficulty Transitioning from “No” to “Yes”: Years of guarding against sexual expression can make it hard to embrace intimacy freely now that it is God-honoring within marriage.
Fear of Sinning Within Marriage: They may wonder, “Is this position, act, or expression still wrong?” since most of their teaching focused on boundaries, not freedom in marital intimacy.
Performance Anxiety: Both spouses may feel pressure that intimacy must “go perfectly” on the wedding night or that they must immediately be skilled and satisfying.
Unrealistic Expectations: Some grew up with the idea that marriage would instantly make sex natural and fulfilling — so it can be discouraging if intimacy feels awkward or takes time to grow.
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Lack of Communication Skills: They may not know how to talk openly about sex, making it difficult to express needs, boundaries, or struggles without fear of shame or judgment.
Body Shame and Insecurity: Modesty teachings or fear of “tempting others” can leave one or both spouses feeling self-conscious, unattractive, or hesitant to be fully vulnerable.
Confusion About Pleasure: They may wrestle with whether sex is only for procreation or if mutual enjoyment and delight are also part of God’s design for marriage.
Spiritual Pressure: They may feel that intimacy must meet a “spiritual ideal,” turning sex into a duty or performance rather than a joyful expression of love.
Fear of Rejection: If one spouse has lower desire, the other may feel unwanted — and because their sense of worth may be tied to being a “godly” spouse, rejection can sting deeply.
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Maybe you’ve been carrying pain for a long time. Shame from the past. Disconnection in your marriage. A loss of confidence in who you are. Or perhaps intimacy—something God designed for connection and love—has become a place of tension, avoidance, disappointment, or hurt.
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You may love God and love your spouse, yet still wonder, How did we get here? And can things really be different?
Healing is possible.
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Through compassionate, faith-centered coaching, we begin by creating a safe place to understand what has been hurting, uncover the patterns keeping you stuck, and reconnect with the truth of who God created you to be. Together, we work toward healing shame, rebuilding emotional safety, strengthening communication, restoring connection, and developing a healthier relationship with intimacy.
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The goal isn’t simply to fix what feels broken. It’s to help you move from shame to freedom, disconnection to intimacy, fear to safety, and uncertainty to a deeply rooted sense of identity and worth.
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Whether you are walking this journey individually or together as a couple, you don’t have to remain where you are. There is a path forward—toward healing, deeper connection, and the kind of love and intimacy God intended.
YOUR AMAZING JOURNEY
BOOK YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL HERE!
What To Expect on the Free Discovery Call...
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20 min phone call ​
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Discussion of your primary goal
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Overview of the 7-Key Framework Session Details including tools and techniques used
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Questions and Answers about the program, my coaching style, etc
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Assurance that my personalized coaching program is the right fit for both of us
THE RESULTS YOU'LL EXPERIENCE THROUGH INTIMACY COACHING
“We thought intimacy was gone forever after the hurt we’d been through, but with prayer, grace, and practical steps, our spark came back stronger than ever.”
“Our marriage didn’t just heal—it was reborn. The spiritual intimacy came first, and the physical followed naturally.”
“We didn’t just learn how to be better lovers; we learned how to love more like Christ.”
“We used to see sex as separate from our faith. Now we see it as an act of worship and unity.”
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SERVICES
Engaged / Newlywed Package
This 7-Step Faith-Based Coaching Program equips engaged and newly married couples to build lasting emotional and physical intimacy through biblical wisdom, practical tools, and guided conversations - helping you create a marriage rooted in love, trust, and godly connection.
Rebuilding After Betrayal Package
This 7-Step Faith-Based Coaching Journey walks with couples through the tender process of healing after infidelity. Grounded in biblical truth and guided with grace, this program helps you move from heartbreak to hope - restoring emotional safety, rebuilding trust, and renewing the spiritual and physical connection God intended for your marriage.
Individual Sessions
These Faith-Based Sessions are for couples or for individuals who are needing supportive coaching for any other intimacy related issues. Some common issues include sexual dysfunction, low-libido, intimacy in later stages of life, communication, sexual pleasure education, creativity, and body image issues.
Healing Package for Women
This 7-Step Faith-Based Coaching Journey guides women in healing intimacy with themselves and their relationship with God in order to reach goals of feeling worthy to receive love and intimacy, heal from unmet needs in relational intimacy, and establish a new Christ-centered identity.
** Session fees discussed during 20 min discovery call. Note that session fees may be adjusted based on income level. I do not want cost to prevent you from receiving the help God desires for you and your relationships.
ONLINE COURSES
Premarital / Newlywed Courses
These courses are designed as a faith-based journey and help engaged and newly married couples cultivate true intimacy—spiritually, emotionally, and physically. We will lay a foundation of abiding in Christ first, then discuss topics like shame, emotional intimacy, expectations, and deep dive into the art of sex in marriage.
Through 7 guided sessions, you’ll build a marriage rooted in Christ, free from shame, rich in connection, and designed to flourish in every season.
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Over 7 hours of essential content with additional worksheets in each session, for a fraction of the cost of in person coaching.
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**Note that you can also take the "mini-master course" on preparing for sex in marriage.
Meet Your Coach...
I live in the NW Houston area of Texas with my husband and two daughters. I am passionate about Jesus and know first- hand the brokenness that betrayal trauma and infidelity cause in relationships and marriages. When I got married at a young age, I was unprepared for how to develop strong emotional and physical intimacy within my marriage. I believe that sometimes Christians struggle with shame, embarrassment, and fear of sexual topics because we desire to live within God's truths rather than what messages we have received about sex from the world. I have a deep desire and resolve to help people navigate this challenge, feel confident and overcome their struggles while abiding in Christ and what He teaches about biblical love and sex.
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I have a bachelor's degree in education as well as a certification in Sexology. I have lots of Christian based resources on intimacy within marriage that I can't wait to share with you!
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Contact
Abiding Love Intimacy Coaching
Telephone: 346-880-9918
Offering Online Sessions World-Wide
Located in the Greater Houston TX area
Meet My Husband ...
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Besides my three children, Dale is the greatest gift that God has given to me. He's my biggest encourager and prayer warrior. He helps me in my own journey of abiding in Christ and he's my biggest cheerleader and supporter to achieve my dream of helping married couples to thrive in their marriages and overcome the inevitable challenges in life. He and I make a great team! We love being active outdoors, going on unique date nights, watching the Lions play football, and getting involved in service projects together. God is faithful and He will continue to help us grow and will help you continue to grow as individuals and as a team as well!
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